In most ways, relationships are part Art and part Science…
Through science I can lean into the overwhelming research around neurobiology and emotions. I know I am hard wired around dependency, care and protection. That like you, I come from important and significant family relationships, some have been caring, some not so. These experiences, have given me a unique set of lenses and skills orientating how I co-create, stay in, or leave relationships. Knowing all about these tender points – my attachment wounds, my trauma journey – can be invaluable in understanding my relational rhythm. And the art?
The art of relationship starts by seeing the relationship as a co-created third entity, something seperate of myself and my parntner – a canvass if you like, or a dance floor – where both of us are the artist and choreographers. Both of us need to attend too the painting or the dance with mutuality. My tendency, when I’m stuck in some old ways, is to sit back and wait for her to paint something for me, to dance on her own; to fix or solve my old wounds… A place familiar, but stifling…
Something radical happens when we can become more resourced around the science and art of relationship, when we can know of ourselves more deeply and find a way to step around our old rhythm, turning up for each other in a creative and new way. Its powerful and transformative stuff, and takes enormous courage, a commitment to grow and a passion to stay – through the good, the bad and the ugly
Contact me on 0415 919 123 or sean@tonnet.org for a relationship consultation.
